Because Why Not

My Plan has been to have the opportunity to write more as I have traveled and as I have experienced. However, that has not happened as much as I would have liked it to. I need to start taking more time for myself to sit and write because while I am busy and I am out there experiencing life, well when I write these posts it is not just for you ladies. They help me just as much.

Getting my thoughts out there and processing through the written word has always been a way for me to work through what I am experiencing and what I am learning. With that in mind comes today’s post. Recently in a gaming community that I am not part of but have lots of friends in they have had a bit of a joke that resulted from something that was said in an email from the game makers. Because why not has become a thing in that community.

Making Because Why Not my own

Many of you know I have made some big changes in my life recently. This has led to anxiety from new and different sources. While my changes have led to less stress, I am also experiencing new things and learning how to cope with the anxiety that comes with those things.

Last night I reached out to another community that I am a part of. I told them the things I had been experiencing and struggling with and asked for support. The overflowing responses of encouragement and ideas was almost overwhelming, and much appreciated. It got me thinking of this statement, Because Why not?

Why can’t I live uniquely and live life my own way. Why do I have to feel like I have to conform to societal norms for fear of what people might think of me. Because that is exactly what it is, Fear. Anxiety is nothing but a fancy word for fear. The fear of the unknown, the fear of what could happen. With Social Anxiety it is the fear of what other people will do, say, or think.

It is one of the reasons I thrive so much in the digital world. Because I am unseen and when I am seen, people mostly see the version of me that I want them to see. Very few make it past the facade. I am far from conquering my Anxiety. It will be a battle but it is a battle that is worth it.

Why Not Me?

From Because Why not to Why not me… If I can learn to say Because Why Not… then can I also learn to say, Why not me? There is no reason I cannot explore who I am and discover who I am. There is no reason I have to conform to societal norms just because society says this is what is normal (as long as I do not find myself on the wrong side of the law).

I value those who live outside the box. I admire those who live outside the box. I need to learn to value and admire myself when I choose to live outside the box versus worrying about what people who do not matter think about me. Can I learn not to care what the haters think or say?

Ultimately, learning how to say these things and not care are what will make me a healthier and happier me. So… my goal is to start not only saying Because Why Not and Why Not Me… it is to start living a life that is based on these two principles.

It will not be easy. Mistakes will be made, because why not? Ties will be cut, because why not me? However, the rewards, the rewards will make me a person that I can admire and a person that I can value, because I chose to step outside the box and live a life that tailored for me and not for society.