As gamers we spend a lot of our lives in a digital world. In this world all kinds of messages come our way. As women some of these messages can be negative. We are told by the trolls in our community that we are ugly, we are called cunts, bitches, skanks, sluts, whores, fat, and so many other things.
When we hear these words often enough we begin to speak them back to ourselves. It is easy enough as women to already think these things because society paints an unrealistic picture of what women should look like and what we should be. We begin to believe these things about ourselves and then it becomes easier to say these things about ourselves.
We claim these words and ascribe them to ourselves because it is easier than being told my someone else that we are these words. If we claim these words for ourselves then they will hurt less when others throw them in our face right?
But do they? Do they really hurt less or do we do more damage to ourselves by claiming these words and using them against ourselves. I mean there is not much we can do about the trolls that throw these words around. However, we can break the habit of beating ourselves down. We can replace our negative self-talk with positive self-talk and see how our lives transform. It’s not easy. It’s something I struggle with on a constant basis.
I crave having a person who will make me feel wanted and attractive. However, when I think about it I am forced to ask myself… Why would someone else want me or think I’m beautiful? I do not even think these things about myself.
Ladies I am here to tell you… YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL… YOU ARE WORTH IT… YOU ARE WANTED… YOU ARE NOT THE UGLY WORDS SOCIETY HURLS AT YOU…
I am going to challenge myself to stop saying negative things about myself. I am going to start replacing my negatives with positives, it’s not going to be easy. Even as I sit here writing my brain is in a very negative place. However, it is going to be worth it. I’m going to ask all of you to keep me accountable and challenge each and every one of you to join me in replacing the negative self talk with positive. Because you are my friends and no one talks badly about my friends, not even my friends.
Gamer Girl 
I’m not a girl but that’s great that your replacing your words with positive ones! We are what we think, just like what we eat 🙂
As someone thinks within himself, so he is.
-Proverbs 23:7
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Hi, I just happened across your post. I really think what you want to do (replacing negative thoughts with positive ones) is completely worth. It’s hard but will make such a difference in your life. I fully believe positive self talk is a learned skill.
Through our lives we are always told we’re not good enough, that we have to be something other than what we are. Which is complete bullshit! You can do this! ❤
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